Thanks to the warped mind of my brother - he made a good (but very disturbing) point. My daughter's grandparents, on her father's side, kinda treat my daughter like a Christmas Tree. They just want to see her around the holiday's and then discretely pack her off in a box, once the holidays are over, until next year.
How am I to address this lack of interest to my daughter? It isn't her - but them. I can't possibly fathom how they do not really care enough to want to have any kind of relationship with her outside of her father and away from the Christmas Holidays; therefore, have no logical explanation to provide my daughter.
How do you comfort somebody for the ignorance and neglect of someone else? There is no real way to explain to my daughter their absenteeism. There really aren't any words to say that will comfort her?
All that my family and myself know to do is lavish her with love and re-affirm that we do love her unconditionally until the end of time. Comfort her with hugs and kisses while we wipe her tears away.
Over the years, my daughters pain has been masked. She just blocks them out; pushes them to the side and doesn't really give them a second thought. But one day those suppressed feelings of hurt and anger will re-surface and then what? I will just have to deal with it when it occurs (I guess). Hopefully, by then I have stumbled over a solution.
How am I to address this lack of interest to my daughter? It isn't her - but them. I can't possibly fathom how they do not really care enough to want to have any kind of relationship with her outside of her father and away from the Christmas Holidays; therefore, have no logical explanation to provide my daughter.
How do you comfort somebody for the ignorance and neglect of someone else? There is no real way to explain to my daughter their absenteeism. There really aren't any words to say that will comfort her?
All that my family and myself know to do is lavish her with love and re-affirm that we do love her unconditionally until the end of time. Comfort her with hugs and kisses while we wipe her tears away.
Over the years, my daughters pain has been masked. She just blocks them out; pushes them to the side and doesn't really give them a second thought. But one day those suppressed feelings of hurt and anger will re-surface and then what? I will just have to deal with it when it occurs (I guess). Hopefully, by then I have stumbled over a solution.
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