Negativity and Emotional Parasites

Here are a few things that I have realized and/or have clued into and that are food for thought for many others:

• Negativity of any kind (may it be negative thinking or other’s negative ideology) cripples the human spirit from soaring.

• Negativity is contagious like yawning and has harmful effects.

• Complaining is worse than doing nothing. Instead of complaining just do it - work on fixing the issue or achieve a solution.

• Each time a complaint is made it becomes increasingly harder to climb out of the rut that’s been created by complaining.

• We have to work at appreciating what we do have instead of crying over what we may lack.

• Negative thinking people have a need to have the world be according to their own selfish wants and desires.

• Constant stress that comes from negativity drains your energy, focus and motivation to succeed.

• If I hang out with negative people, my mind will be negatively affected by their pessimism.

• I cannot change anyone but myself.

• I must stay away from negative people that are parasites and bring me down. I view them as Emotional Vampires. People that feed off my positivity and drain me dry leaving me feeling tired, drained, depressed, weak, agitated, inadequate and trapped.

 

• That I have had my share and experiences with Emotional Vampires and have categorized them in my mind as follows: 

The Narcissist - This person needs and demands constant praise and attention. They believe that the world does revolve around them and always steers the conversation back around to themselves.

The Controller - This person dictates and dominates everyone else. They are often telling you what is best for you and how you should be living your life. The Victim a.k.a.Poor Pitiful Me - This person is overly needy, usually has a story of how the world has wronged them one way or another and usually wallows in self-pity and misery.
The Drama Queen - This person needs to be the center of attention all the time. If they aren’t getting attend they tend to create drama believing that this rush of emotion is a healthy connection. They can be very nice; seeking your approval and quite charming when they have it but extremely aggressive and sometimes abusive when they don’t.

Signs of an Emotional Vampire are: they have nothing but bad news; you can never truly cheer them up; and their issues/problems never seem to get resolved and progressively get worse with time.

• An enlightening quote from the Dali Lama:

The fact that there is always a positive side to life is the one thing that gives me happiness. This world is not perfect. There are problems. But things like happiness and unhappiness are relative. Realizing this gives you hope.

Anything is achievable with the power of your mind and positivity and optimism.